Week 30 - Says who??

Last week started on a real big high from Valentine’s Day and all the love from my clients and how in love with my life I feel. And I think somewhere in that high my defences were down and my old hyper-achiever saboteur slipped right back in. By the end of the week I was feeling so much pressure and feeling like I had too much work to do and not enough time.

It’s extremely rare for me to feel that way because I’ve been very deliberate with how I manage my energy and where I spend it and how that impacts how I structure my day. But man, that hyper-achiever got the best of me last week. 

I got into this thinking that I NEEDED to do more. More business development, more podcasts, more calls, etc. The hyper-achiever is a seductive bitch that makes you think that if you keep pushing harder and harder, you’ll be successful. And I have already learned that lesson many times and know with certainly that it is not true. I do not force things to happen in my life. I stay in alignment with my values, my mission and the impact that I want to have and in doing so opportunities shows up in my life that I can opt into and pursue. Well that somehow went out the window last week. 

I felt like I was trying to force things. I felt like I needed to amp up my business development. Until I caught myself in the kitchen washing dishes (where all good thinking is done. Oh and in the shower. Love a good shower think!) and having the thought that I needed to be doing more and then realizing, ‘wait….says who???” I don’t have a boss, I don’t have a quota, I don’t publicly need to report my results to a board….soooo why do I need to ramp up biz dev?? 

The answer is simple: I don’t. 

It was just that seductive bitch hyper-achiever taking the reins last week and throwing me all off. 

I sat myself down and wrote out what I do and do not want my days to look like, and thus what my life to look like. And it became very clear what I needed to stop doing: all the ‘more’ stuff. 

Ultimately feeling the need to do more really comes from the fact that we believe we aren’t enough, so MORE would make us enough. I’ve resolved that in many areas of my life but clearly not all. I still write the affirmation “I am already enough” in my journal every day. Some lessons just take longer to learn.

So I leave you to check in with yourself today:

Where are you doing MORE when you should be doing less? 

One of my clients simplified what she wants like this: “More of what I like and less of what I don’t”

Amen, sista!

So I’m writing this today by the pool! Because this week is super warm down in South Carolina and I moved a bunch of meetings so that I had time to just sit by the pool in the sun. More sun, less meetings :) 😎